Questions Of Temptation by Ezekiel The Poet Lyrics
Questions of Temptation- can guys and girls just be very close without one getting attached?
Temptation. There’s always an element of it laying around. Especially when you mingle with someone on a regular basis. Frequent fraternization can often send your emotions into a frenzy. You assume attraction in the place of innocent interest. Usually because when you’re caught up in the excitement and satisfaction of being close with someone, sense becomes over-ridden with a desire to be intimately involved. There is nothing saying that guys and girls can’t be close without a romantic attachment or lustful impulse arising but, in the world of today, people are quick to chuck labels at friends of the opposing sex who are NOTHING more than JUST friends. But, back to the subject at hand, temptation is a VERY real thing. It’s a powerful passionate surge that can take over & control you, swaying you to eroticize your friendships. And even provoking indecisiveness to remain faithful to someone you already pledged loyalty & commitment to. If you’re dating anyone, cheating isn’t cool or justifiable or excusable. Temptation is something you’ll encounter on a consistent basis but if you consistently falter in the eyes of provocation you can’t expect any kind of longevity with someone. It’ll ultimately gatecrash into conflict and inevitably a break-up or both of you becoming increasingly alienated from one another.
In the case of guys and girls being able to be just friends and close without either getting attached, it is difficult. When you invest yourself emotionally, psychologically and spiritually in someone, you’re often convinces to invest physically. Spend enough time with someone and eventually they’ll become attractive and desirable to you even if zero chemistry exists between you compelling either of you to take your friendship beyond a friendship. Emotions can best us at the most inconvenient & awkward of moments. And it's not something that only girls are vulnerable to and guilty of. It can happen to guys. For instance, I’d been friends with one particular person I knew for about 3 years. We met when I was dating someone else so it never started off as anything other than a mutual friendship. She saw me go through the highs and lows of my relationship until my girlfriend became an ex. But throughout the whole time with my girlfriend I remained loyal. 100%. But me and this person were just buddies. I mean, I thought she was stunning but it was never like that. Until after my break up with my girlfriend and I was mad vulnerable. We were spending more time together as friends but it confused me and I mistook comfort and friendship as an indication that maybe we could be more than friends and temptation got the better of me. So I texted her in the middle of the night in an emotionally drunken state saying I wanted to take our friendship to the next level. I got shot down. But there was never any awkwardness between us and the, regrettably, tactless decision to take a risk on our friendship faded from memory. We both flirted with the idea of being more than friends but it just seemed like it would go nowhere. However, we grew closer and closer and closer till eventually romantic feelings naturally progressed and developed on their own. So we dated. And, let me tell you, it was smooth but then it hit turbulence and that was it. It just plunged into disaster. Fortunately, we never went all the way because that would have probably killed any hope of us being friends again which neither of us wanted to compromise for the sake of being in a official relationship. But we both learnt a LOT and I’ll always have love for her.
The point I’m trying to make is that temptation can make you act irrationally and assume romance out of nothing. You may be attracted to someone on the surface but you have to ask yourself: is it because I genuinely see myself with them in a relationship or am I confusing a happy & great friendship for feelings? Being close to someone, yes- there is a danger of getting tangled in a web of emotions which will test you. But not everything you feel you have to act on. It’s not compulsory. Sometimes you have to exercise a little restraint & a little more thought in order to avoid heavy regrets. However, I suppose everything happens for a reason. In every experience lies the opportunity to grow, learn, improve and develop into becoming a bigger and better you. I don’t doubt that temptation is something we all will or have wrestled with. But don’t feel that because someone’s opinion of your friendship suggests that either of you should take things further or that either of you should feel compelled to do so. If it's flowing in that direction, great. But, again, it's not compulsory. Guys and girls are capable of just being friends. Lust and being close can often shade your judgment from time to time but there comes a time when you have to make a choice: the friendship or risking it just to satisfy an itch you need scratching or to appease other people’s interpretation on a personal relationship you have with someone else that is none of their business. There’s many questions on the idea of temptation. But one thing is blindingly obvious: decision-making counts a GREAT deal and temptation is not something that just evaporates and disappears. You have to be able to deal with it head on otherwise it carries the danger of ruining all you hold dear.
"You don't have to take the apple (opinions) everyone tries to feed you on board. Take charge of your own relationships and decisions. How we deal with temptation tests & build character"
Ezekiel The Poet (c) Copyright 2013
Temptation. There’s always an element of it laying around. Especially when you mingle with someone on a regular basis. Frequent fraternization can often send your emotions into a frenzy. You assume attraction in the place of innocent interest. Usually because when you’re caught up in the excitement and satisfaction of being close with someone, sense becomes over-ridden with a desire to be intimately involved. There is nothing saying that guys and girls can’t be close without a romantic attachment or lustful impulse arising but, in the world of today, people are quick to chuck labels at friends of the opposing sex who are NOTHING more than JUST friends. But, back to the subject at hand, temptation is a VERY real thing. It’s a powerful passionate surge that can take over & control you, swaying you to eroticize your friendships. And even provoking indecisiveness to remain faithful to someone you already pledged loyalty & commitment to. If you’re dating anyone, cheating isn’t cool or justifiable or excusable. Temptation is something you’ll encounter on a consistent basis but if you consistently falter in the eyes of provocation you can’t expect any kind of longevity with someone. It’ll ultimately gatecrash into conflict and inevitably a break-up or both of you becoming increasingly alienated from one another.
In the case of guys and girls being able to be just friends and close without either getting attached, it is difficult. When you invest yourself emotionally, psychologically and spiritually in someone, you’re often convinces to invest physically. Spend enough time with someone and eventually they’ll become attractive and desirable to you even if zero chemistry exists between you compelling either of you to take your friendship beyond a friendship. Emotions can best us at the most inconvenient & awkward of moments. And it's not something that only girls are vulnerable to and guilty of. It can happen to guys. For instance, I’d been friends with one particular person I knew for about 3 years. We met when I was dating someone else so it never started off as anything other than a mutual friendship. She saw me go through the highs and lows of my relationship until my girlfriend became an ex. But throughout the whole time with my girlfriend I remained loyal. 100%. But me and this person were just buddies. I mean, I thought she was stunning but it was never like that. Until after my break up with my girlfriend and I was mad vulnerable. We were spending more time together as friends but it confused me and I mistook comfort and friendship as an indication that maybe we could be more than friends and temptation got the better of me. So I texted her in the middle of the night in an emotionally drunken state saying I wanted to take our friendship to the next level. I got shot down. But there was never any awkwardness between us and the, regrettably, tactless decision to take a risk on our friendship faded from memory. We both flirted with the idea of being more than friends but it just seemed like it would go nowhere. However, we grew closer and closer and closer till eventually romantic feelings naturally progressed and developed on their own. So we dated. And, let me tell you, it was smooth but then it hit turbulence and that was it. It just plunged into disaster. Fortunately, we never went all the way because that would have probably killed any hope of us being friends again which neither of us wanted to compromise for the sake of being in a official relationship. But we both learnt a LOT and I’ll always have love for her.
The point I’m trying to make is that temptation can make you act irrationally and assume romance out of nothing. You may be attracted to someone on the surface but you have to ask yourself: is it because I genuinely see myself with them in a relationship or am I confusing a happy & great friendship for feelings? Being close to someone, yes- there is a danger of getting tangled in a web of emotions which will test you. But not everything you feel you have to act on. It’s not compulsory. Sometimes you have to exercise a little restraint & a little more thought in order to avoid heavy regrets. However, I suppose everything happens for a reason. In every experience lies the opportunity to grow, learn, improve and develop into becoming a bigger and better you. I don’t doubt that temptation is something we all will or have wrestled with. But don’t feel that because someone’s opinion of your friendship suggests that either of you should take things further or that either of you should feel compelled to do so. If it's flowing in that direction, great. But, again, it's not compulsory. Guys and girls are capable of just being friends. Lust and being close can often shade your judgment from time to time but there comes a time when you have to make a choice: the friendship or risking it just to satisfy an itch you need scratching or to appease other people’s interpretation on a personal relationship you have with someone else that is none of their business. There’s many questions on the idea of temptation. But one thing is blindingly obvious: decision-making counts a GREAT deal and temptation is not something that just evaporates and disappears. You have to be able to deal with it head on otherwise it carries the danger of ruining all you hold dear.
"You don't have to take the apple (opinions) everyone tries to feed you on board. Take charge of your own relationships and decisions. How we deal with temptation tests & build character"
Ezekiel The Poet (c) Copyright 2013